What is BDSM?

BDSM is an acronym that stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism. It's an umbrella term that covers all sorts of activities, both inside and outside the bedroom. And while that means that most people will find at least one BDSM activity that appeals to them, understanding what BDSM is–and isn't–can be difficult.

BONDAGE

The bondage part of BDSM is a great way to utilize sex toys. You can use cuffs (wrist or ankle) to restrict your partner, a ball gag on their mouth, or even a spreader bar between the ankles. From rope to leather to bondage tape, there is no shortage of goodies you can use to bind your partner--or be bound yourself. We especially recommend a blindfold, which can enhance your sexual experiences even without any other toy or implement, and bed restraints, which allow you to turn your bed into a piece of bondage furniture easily.

DISCIPLINE

Next up is discipline, which includes all sorts of activities that "punish" a partner. Remember that the activities and punishments are agreed upon beforehand. And while these activities might be wanted, they may still potentially hurt a person, which is why it's important to use safe words and incorporate aftercare into your scenes to help you and your partner return to a happy and healthy equilibrium. Once you cover the safety elements, however, you can have a ton of fun with a flogger, crop, or whip, each of which creates unique sensations. Of course, you can also use your hand to spank your partner. Being able to feel their body is incredibly intimate.

DOMINANCE & SUBMISSION

Dominance and submission are aspects of BDSM that not everyone is into, but if you like erotic role play, they can be quite fun! Not only can you go further with your bondage and discipline, but your relationship can grow, too. Many people use a colar to symbolize their BDSM relationship. While you can combine this with a leash, sometimes prefer the more sophisticated route of using a piece of jewelry instead.

There are plenty of other BDSM activities and goodies to try that might surprise you! If you're looking to dip your toe into BDSM but aren't sure what you might like, consider a BDSM set like those sold by CherryAffairs, the premium sex toy store in Singapore. These often include light bondage gear, a blindfold, and impact play items. You might also find a feather tickler in these sets. Not only do the items in the kits vary, but you can choose an aesthetic that you like best. This gives you a chance to try new things in the bedroom and show off your style! Surprise your other half with a BDSM kit today! Let the adventure begins!